What did you do today?

[Fido_le_muet 5,198]

Put rev's present on the kitchen wall. Thanks again !

 

[Jaggy 2,811]

Bought myself some daisies today while grocery shopping.  It was obviously spontaneous and not something I usually do.  Since it's a new year, I decided to do something different.  The vase is kind of large and could have easily held another bundle of these colorful daisies.  Hopefully I can keep them alive for more than a week.  

 

[Ninja 719]

Since this day i'm single again. To be honest it hit me really hard.

[JustHatched 12,123]

Bought myself some daisies today while grocery shopping.  It was obviously spontaneous and not something I usually do.  Since it's a new year, I decided to do something different.  The vase is kind of large and could have easily held another bundle of these colorful daisies.  Hopefully I can keep them alive for more than a week.  

 

recut the stems each day (1/2 inch or so), change the water daily and add a teaspoon of lemon juice to the water, they will last 3 weeks that way

[Jaggy 2,811]

Awesome, thanks!  I'll totally do that.  These flowers are so pretty.  I really want to go back and buy another bunch.  lol

[JustHatched 12,123]

Crazy Daisies, we can get them to last for 4-5 weeks but that is us getting fresh from the wholesaler and using flower food (flower food is more or less citric acid = lemon juice). The grocery essentially does the same thing but dunno how long they have already had them (probably less than a week)

[wraignbow 719]

Since this day i'm single again. To be honest it hit me really hard.

sorry about that, Ninja

[ScottyB 2,086]

Since this day i'm single again. To be honest it hit me really hard.

Sorry to hear. It doesn't matter who made the decision, it's always going to be hard. I've recently separated with my GF of 9 years so this is the first time in my adult life I've really been single and its obviously a massive change.

If possible, try and learn from what went wrong in the relationship so you don't end up in a similar situation in the future. This will also help you identify what you truly value in a relationship which is very important because a lot of people (myself included) tend to settle on a lot of things or assume certain behaviours (negative) are normal when they're not.

You should also try and focus on nurturing and strengthening your relationship with your friends and family. This should help lessen the pain and sense of loss and will help you start to move forward.

Feel free to PM me if you want to talk anymore about anything.

[Ninja 719]

Yeah its difficult because she lives in sweden. So it didnt really end how almost every relationship ends. We never had 1 fight and i dont think we ever will. I think it was judt the wrong time for it..

[ScottyB 2,086]

Yeah its difficult because she lives in sweden. So it didnt really end how almost every relationship ends. We never had 1 fight and i dont think we ever will. I think it was judt the wrong time for it..

That's probably one of the hardest ways for a relationship to end, I feel for you. Timing and different priorities in life (like where to live) play a massive part in how the relationship will work out. I think if I had met my ex a few years later, we would have both been more mature and in a better place as individuals and things might have turned out differently. But then again we may have never met or been with other people. Why do relationships have to be so complicated?

[Ninja 719]

That's probably one of the hardest ways for a relationship to end, I feel for you. Timing and different priorities in life (like where to live) play a massive part in how the relationship will work out. I think if I had met my ex a few years later, we would have both been more mature and in a better place as individuals and things might have turned out differently. But then again we may have never met or been with other people. Why do relationships have to be so complicated?

I have no idea scotty, but i know that i've never felt so heartbroken with any relationship ending

[Jaggy 2,811]

Accidentally typed in "coloring penises" in my Amazon search bar...

 

Caught it before pressing enter and changed it to "coloring pencils".  I swear... I'm not a dirty minded person.  Obviously my computer keyboard is perverted.

Sorry to hear. It doesn't matter who made the decision, it's always going to be hard. I've recently separated with my GF of 9 years so this is the first time in my adult life I've really been single and its obviously a massive change.

If possible, try and learn from what went wrong in the relationship so you don't end up in a similar situation in the future. This will also help you identify what you truly value in a relationship which is very important because a lot of people (myself included) tend to settle on a lot of things or assume certain behaviours (negative) are normal when they're not.

You should also try and focus on nurturing and strengthening your relationship with your friends and family. This should help lessen the pain and sense of loss and will help you start to move forward.

Feel free to PM me if you want to talk anymore about anything.

 

Oh, Scotty.  I had no idea.  Much hugs to you.  Hugs to you too, Ninja.

[zztop911 1,609]

Well, yesterday I said my final farewells and laid my Mom to rest beside my Dad. On a positive note, I got to see both of my sons at the same time and had a very fulfilling visit, despite the reason for the gathering.

[Jaggy 2,811]

Well, yesterday I said my final farewells and laid my Mom to rest beside my Dad. On a positive note, I got to see both of my sons at the same time and had a very fulfilling visit, despite the reason for the gathering.

 

I'm so sorry about your loss, ZZ.  

[Fido_le_muet 5,198]

Sorry for your loss zz.

[no_snacks 3,345]

I'm so sorry, ZZ.  That's very sad news.

I hope this will give you a chance to get closer with your sons and the rest of your family.

[JusTokenII 160]

Well, yesterday I said my final farewells and laid my Mom to rest beside my Dad. On a positive note, I got to see both of my sons at the same time and had a very fulfilling visit, despite the reason for the gathering.

Wow ZZ, Sorry for your loss. Glad that your sons got to be with you for that.

 

Token

xDBx

[Jaggy 2,811]

Let my daughter pick out new fish since her other two died already.  She picked out some cobra stripped guppies.  Really pretty fish!  Anyway, she was determined to pick the guppies from the mixed tank that houses both male and females.  The woman at the pet store explained to my daughter that there's a chance she could get a male/female and wind up with lots of babies.  My daughter was determined to pick the prettier guppies.  So... we will see what happens I guess.  

 

On the car ride home, my daughter said, "my guppies aren't making babies yet!"  

 

I'm starting to wonder if this was a good idea... lol  Hopefully she got two females or two males.

[JustHatched 12,123]

I worked on my kitchen remodel today, almost got that project done, Rose gutted some of the chickens today..

[Beez 5,091]

My condolences zz, sorry for your loss.

[xChaosxSniperx19 159]

I woke up feeling like crap, went to work and almost got into an argument with a co-worker which would have ended badly for both of us and now that I'm home I'm planning on relaxing until I work again on Tuesday, unless life decides to throw something else my way.

[Lann 10,846]

I ran somewhere between 80 and 100 laps on Scouring the Projects.

[wraignbow 719]

Well, yesterday I said my final farewells and laid my Mom to rest beside my Dad. On a positive note, I got to see both of my sons at the same time and had a very fulfilling visit, despite the reason for the gathering.

So sorry for your loss, ZZ. It is so hard to lose a parent.

[Savither 81]

Sorry for your loss Z. I can't imagine how hard that must be.

 

 

My wife and I got a new member of the family last night. We already have two cats (boys) named Dr. Sheldon Cooper and Dr. Leonard Hofstadter, so last night we found Penny at the local pet store. (these are characters from The Big Bang Theory TV show, if you didn't know). She's pretty adorable and the boys are very awkward around her, so ...... just like the show!

[zztop911 1,609]

Thanks for the kind sentiments guys. I was preparing for this day for quite a long time. I held it together quite well, first sight of her in the casket( they did a great job) and even when my two grown sons cried at graveside. The difficult problem is going through her "stuff". My Mom was a dang pack rat! LOL! The vast majority of things are pretty much meaningless, at least to me. The problems are the one that do have some meaning to me. At least some of the things have a funny story and I can get a good laugh out of them!

 

Death is just one more thing in life that you have to learn to deal with, if you want to continue in your own journey.  I don't know if seeing so much death up close has jaded me or just taught me the cold hard facts of this life. I do know that not grieving for a lost one can cause many problems. I didn't get to go through the process when I lost my father. Within 10 days of losing my father, I was right back in the thick of things and having to do my government's bidding. You can't turn off one emotion to focus on an objective without effectively turning off all emotions. Once you do that, as in the loss of your fellow servicemen, it seems it becomes easier to put it aside and focus on the mission at hand. It's a difficult process to break. It puts up unintended barriers between those you love and care about. That was a very hard lesson to learn, but it was learned........eventually.

 

Here is my advice to those here that have never had to grieve for a loved one and to those that have yet to really deal with the loss. You must  joyfully celebrate all the good memories and deeply forgive them of any transgressions. Never regret the unsaid sentiments, but revel in the warm moments that did occur.

Edited January 6, 2016 by zztop911